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  • Expat Job Networking & Fair 2014

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  • Guy Tai Pub Crawl 2014

    Right click the picture and chose open in a new window and you will see a larger version.
     
    The Route is as follows….
     
    Monday 17th March 2014
    10:15 The Flying Fox – 225 Hongfeng Road Pudong -浦东红枫路225号近金桥路
    11:00 The Irishman Pub – 199 Fangdian Road Pudong -芳甸路199弄 大拇指广场 近丁香路
    11:30 The Brew / Kerry Hotel  – 1388 Hua Mu Road Pudong -花木路1388号 近芳甸路
    12:00 Lunch - The Blarney Stone – 77 Yongkang Road Puxi -永康路77号
    14:00 Irish Bar No. 9 – 697 Jiujiang Road Puxi -九江路697号 近广西北路
    14:45 Jenny’s – 7 Donghu Road Puxi -东湖路7号 近淮海中路
    15:30 Sashas – 11 Dongping Road Puxi -东平路11号 近衡山路
    16:00 The Camel Puxi – 1 Yueyang Road Puxi -岳阳路1号 近东平路
    17:30 Dinner - The Camel Pudong – 166 Weifang Xi Road -潍坊西路116号, 近浦东南路
    19:00 LUXE Lounge & Bar - 182 Weifang Xi Road -潍坊西路182号, 近浦东南路
    20:00 The Red Lion – 84 Weifang Xi Road -潍坊西路84号, 近浦东南路
     
    The route has being constructed based on opening times and where the food is good.
    The Flying Fox is the only pub that claims to be open before 11:00am ( to be confirmed ) hence it is first on the list.
     
    As you can see the addresses are supplied in English and Chinese, so please feel free to join us at any / all points for just food, just drink, or both.
  • The Shanghai Expat Show 2012

    The Shanghai Expat Show 2012

    Please don't forget to visit the annual Shanghai Expat Show. A great way to meet new people, get inspired and also to have fun with the kids by joining different activities.

    Shanghai Exhibition Center
    No. 1000 Yan'An Middle Road or Nanjing Road

    上海展览中心
    上海市延安中路1000号

    Exhibition time
    10:00 to 17:00, Sep. 14, 2011
    10:00 to 17:00, Sep. 15, 2011
    10:00 to 17:00, Sep. 16, 2011

    Link to their homepage.

  • Wine Tasting Event at the Kerry Parkside

    Wine Tasting Event, Kerry Parkside, Shanghai, China

  • Happy Chinese New Year 2012

    Chinese New Year 2012, China

    We here at Guy Tai wish everybody a Happy Chinese New Year!

  • Year of the Dragon

    Year of the Dragon

    The fifth character in the Chinese zodiac.
    The hours that the dragon rules: Cl. 7:00 to 9:00 a.m.
    Dragon's fixed element: Wood
    Polarity: Positive (Yin)

  • Happy New Year 2012!


    Happy New Year 2012, Shanghai, China

    We here at Guy Tai wish everyone a Happy New Year 2012!

  • Countdown for the new year!

  • Guy Tai Christmas Lunch

    Guy Tai Christmas Lunch

    You are invited to join your fellow Guy Tai members to celebrate Christmas with an exclusive tour of the newest and hottest micro brewery this side of Pacific. Not only will you get an inside look at the Kerry Parkside Hotel's micro brewery and get to Chat with Brew Master Leon Mickelson, you will get treated to a sampler of the brewery's great ales and lagers as well as a great lunch in the MEET lounge at the hotel. All this for under 100 RMB.

    We can only accommodate 50 people so please RSVP to Greg Dierickse at greg.dierickse@hotmail.com ASAP - it's first come first served.

  • Charity Events during Week 45

    Next  week November Thursday 3rd, Friday 4th and Saturday 5th it will be a 3 day event at the Mexican Restaurant "Mi Tierra". Besides the food and music it will be a Photography Exhibition where I'm one of the exhibitors. This event has the intention to help 3 different foundations:  Thursday "Foundation Brest Cancer Awareness", Friday "Morning Tears" and Saturay 3 different orphanages. I'm attaching the 3 invitations. If you feel like help others, stop by to have good time and know more people. If you want to share this invitation to others, please feel free. The more we can collect, the more we can help.

    Ladies First

    Thursday, November 3rd 2011
    8 pm - 11 pm
    MI TIERRA, 17 Yongjia Road
    near South Maoming Road
    永嘉路17号, 近茂名南路

    Join Boutique Affairs and Frank Bray, originally a star of Chinatown, the Shanghai king of big band swing, in continuing breast cancer awareness with pink cosmos, canapés and a unique photography exhibition and sales of handpicked, multinational photographers.

    Proceeds from this evening will benefit a breast cancer foundation, aiding women with breast cancer. To RSVP, please contact info@boutiqueaffairs.com

    Morning Tears

    November 4th 2011
    8 pm - 11 pm
    MI TIERRA
    17 Yongjia Road
    near South Maoming Road
    永嘉路17号, 近茂名南路

    RMB 200 includes 2
    free drinks, canapés, cigars & whiskey tasting.

    LIVE entertainment by:
    Boyana Walsh - vocals, Alain Couronne - bass,
    Johnny Joseph - drums, Juba Ferreira - guitar,
    Wilson Chen - sax, Byron Hill - keyboardnfo@boutiqueaffairs.com

    Set your sights on joining Boutique Affairs to benefit Morning Tears foundation in rebuilding the world for children who lost their own. Featuring live entertainment and a boutique photography exhibit and sales by handpicked, multinational photographers.

    Whisky tasting and cigars on hand for those keen on bringing a long week to a well deserved end.

    To RSVP, please contact info@boutiqueaffairs.com

    Trilogy

    All good things come in 3. On this unique evening, Boutique Affairs brings together live entertainment by Gilbert Kuppusami and Denise Mininfield, fine wine tasting, a unique photography exhibit and auction, all to benefit an orphanage represented by A Hand to Hold, Mifan Mama and photographer Anna Willett.

    RMB 300 includes free flow of selected drinks, fine wine tasting and 6 course canapés.

    To RSVP, please contact info@boutiqueaffairs.com

    Photography exhibition, sales and auction of handpicked multinational photographers:
    M97 GALLERY
    BERE MITCHELL
    CHARLIE XIA
    FRANCISCO MARIN
    ROBIN MAS
    TIM FRANCO
    ZAC MURPHY

  • Possible attempted abduction of expat children

    We wish to inform members of a possible attempted abduction of expat children in Jinqiao, Shanghai.  The below email was sent out from Dulwich School to parents.

    Dear Parents,
    I have today received a disturbing report of strangers approaching our students and trying to coax them into a car. We are able to confirm that an incident took place at Carrefour, Jinqiao, in daylight hours, and involved a group of men posing as Police Officers who were off duty.

    I want to ensure that the DCS community is alerted to what occurred and to highlight what we can all do to ensure the safety of our children.

    Whilst we all view Shanghai as a very safe place, it is important that everyone involved in the care of young children ensures that they are supervised at all times. Children also need to be made aware – in age-appropriate ways – of the need to maintain personal safety.

    It is important that parents, guardians and others responsible for the supervision of young children, such as domestic helpers and drivers, maintain extra vigilance and ensure that children are supervised at all times. It is also important to keep reinforcing to children that they must not talk to strangers and under no circumstances must they go off with someone they do not know.

    This week, all students across the College will have this message reinforced.

     

     

  • Changingroles (Global Times)

    When one sees men talking over midafternoon drinks at a hotel bar, one commonly assumes they are confining their conversation to business topics such as money, products and schedules.

    However, sitting at the Interconti nental Hotel in Pudong last week were three men between 35 and 50 discussing children, school fees, and kitchen repairs. These men are trailing spouses whose roles in Shanghai concern the domestic rather than the occupational.

    When a couple moves overseas, the assumption is generally that the husband has received a transfer, and that his wife has followed him. However, there is a growing number of males who choose to take extended leave from their professional lives in the West to follow their partners.

    Meet the dads

    The presence of male trailing spouses has reached such critical mass, the term "guytai" – an inter-lingual portmanteau word combining "guy" with "taitai," the Chinese word for "housewife" – was coined a short while ago, and forms the basis for the website www.guytai.net.

    Founded by Kevin Sanders, a male trailing spouse from Denmark, the site offers a platform for Sanders and other guytais to form a community. Because of their wives' high-profile positions the names of these trailing spouses have been changed.

    Sanders, who relocated to China in 2004, is a stay-at-home dad whose wife, in his words, is "a heavy-hitter in the media industry." Formerly an employee of DELL, Sanders now divides his time between cooking, part-time IT consulting and largely taking care of his young son who is still in preschool.

    Dave Nolan, an electrical engineer from the UK, came to Shanghai in 2006 with his wife, a managing director for a recruitment firm, and son, now aged 7.

    Although he initially explored opportunities for continuing his engineering career, he has settled on playing the lead role in caring for his son while acting as a part-time IT consultant for his wife's firm.

    A somewhat recent addition to the guytai fraternity – though the website itself was only launched in November 2010 – is Chris Turner, who arrived in August 2010 after his wife was transferred within General Motors.

    Like Nolan and Sanders, Turner spends the majority of his time tending to his 11-year-old daughter, though he is also involved in an entrepreneurial side project.

    Upon being asked how they feel about their situation, the men's answers were overwhelmingly positive. "We've been given a blessing," said Turner. Nolan agreed, stating that he finds his domestic role to be "a great advantage," especially concerning his relationship with his son.

    Ironically, very few male trailing spouses expressed ecstasy over the increased amount of leisure time. As Sanders said, "The first two or three days of not working and staying home with nothing to do are pretty cool – but then reality kicks in."

    Most of the members of guytais, like Turner, Sanders, and Nolan, have been intent on maintaining a connection to the world of work, albeit on a part-time basis.

    This is a way of keeping professionally active, but also, on a social level, a way of combating the loneliness that can be induced by a domestic lifestyle in a foreign land.

    "I don't miss working full-time, but I do miss the social aspects of working in an office," said Sanders. "One of the main reasons for the guytai group was to provide this 'community' feeling that we miss about an office atmosphere."

    New adjustments

    Psychologists in the city cite both positive and negative cases involving male trailing spouses. Carrie Jones, counseling coordinator at Community Center Shanghai, elaborated instances of both.

    A foreign boy who was suffering from anxiety issues was brought in by his father who thrived on being a stay-at-home dad. His positivity was radiant: he sat on the board of a number of community organizations and expressed a very strong interest in his son's education and extracurricular activities to the point of chronicling his son's progress through assessment charts and setting very high standards.

    Through counseling sessions, Jones deduced that the father's diligent parenting was actually partly responsible for the son's condition. "The son felt smothered, as he had to achieve 100 percent on all forms of evaluation," said Jones. The father was praised for his enthusiasm but told to tone it down. Overall, however, this case shows a house husband with a passion.

    A more negative case involving a stay-at-home male spouse entailed a couple who both came to China to work, though only the wife received a relocation package.

    The husband endeavored to set up a business in Shanghai, though found it futile after two years and stopped. It was here that he began a downward spiral.

    "Work had always been his identity," said Jones. "When this was taken away from him, it left him bored while also intensifying several other issues."

    The patient had been a long-term alcoholic, a condition which was exacerbated by having long hours of little to do; he had been against coming to China, so he felt depressed; and, being 50 years old and with a sports injury, he was not able to pursue outdoor pastimes he had previously enjoyed.

    Further complications involved raising two teenage daughters, largely without the presence of his wife, who was often on business trips.

    "He became very defeatist and had a feeling of inadequacy," said Jones. His counseling initially focused on the alcohol issues, and while some progress was being made, one of the daughters was diagnosed with bulimia.

    Rather than making the father feel more desperate, this instead motivated him to take a deeper interest in his home life.

    Among the guytais there are ambivalent feelings towards whether Shanghai is actually a good place to raise kids. "Overall, Shanghai is a nice place to raise children, as there are many things to do. But also, the medical system here needs to be improved.

    And this is not helped by the pollution, which I feel is a big problem. My son, for example, has had a bad cough for six months," Sanders said.

    Nolan agreed, "It's a great city, but in regard to healthcare, improvements are certainly needed," he said. "I also miss the easy access to nature that you find in many Western cities."

    Turner took a more long-term view, and stated, "Yes, it's a good city for children, as life is about learning lessons. And this city offers a wealth of experience to be gained." Turner and his wife made attempts to make their daughter as comfortable as possible with the idea of moving to China before arriving in the city, which have succeeded.

    Nevertheless, he added philosophically, "Children her age are high and low no matter where you live."

    Making friends

    The presence of children also allows these parents to socialize with other parents, primarily mothers. However, whereas women often become friends through the friendships established by their children in school, this has proven to be more arduous for the males.

    "It's different for a dad to make friends with other kids' mothers. It's hard to mix in with them, and even though we may get along well, there is a natural exclusiveness when women are planning an activity," said Nolan.

    Turner, however, asserted that there is also the presence of school mothers who exhibit a friendliness towards male trailing spouses, fascinated by the latter taking a traditionally maternal interest in their children.

    Other challenges that one may expect of males of their status, for example feeling deprived of the sense of authority given by a job, or the social awkwardness of having to admit that the wife is the breadwinner, were gently dismissed.

    "For me, there haven't really been any distinct challenges. Many of us have been working hard for so many years that it's nice to have time to do other things," Sanders said.

    Activities organized by the guytai club so far have included visits to several corporate plants, including GM, and other recreational outings, most notably a Christmastime go-carting event. Turner stated that a "Daddy-daughter Day" is in the process of being arranged.

    On the subject of possible discomfort in having to explain that the wife is the bread-winning partner, "The reaction is generally one of jealousy," Turner told the Global Times.

    As the conversation slowly drifted into China's role in international affairs, there were interspersed topics such as the difficulty of finding a good nanny, the search for a professional cook, and enjoyable day trips, before it was past four o'clock.

    Rising with genuine smiles, the guytais said that school was out and it was time to pick up the kids. Returning to his earlier point, Turner stated, "We've really been given a gift – being able to spend so much quality time with our children."

     

  • Shanghai Guy Tai Web Site up and running

    Features

    Friday, 30 October 2009 03:10
    Written by Jade Bremner


    Househusbands abound in this city, and they’re ready to man up for the domestic challenge

    We pulled up to an enormous house in the Jinqiao area; you know the kind – set in a secure compound, surrounded by manicured lawns and with private driver parked outside in a private car. We were there to meet Devin Silloway, not the homeowner in the traditional sense, but a stay-at-home dad. “My wife has been blessed and has done phenomenally well,” says Devin, a board member for Community Center Shanghai. “She’s now with her third company here.” Devin organizes ‘guy-tai’ meet-ups once a month to address the growing trend of househusbands in the Jinqiao and Kangqiao areas. “We often get between 10 and 20 men at each meeting,” he adds.

    An increasing number of husbands like Devin in Shanghai are willing to swap the conventional breadwinner role with their wives for a domestic lifestyle. They put their families first and their personal career ambitions a distant second. Call it what you will – a byproduct of the economic crisis perhaps, where sensible financial decisions have to be made to support a family; or maybe a societal gender blurring and a gradual progression of equality in the home and workplace; or maybe it’s just a man’s ticket to a free ride. Whatever the sociological cause, it’s clear that more and more husbands like Devin are now trading in their day jobs to improve their lifestyle.

    Surprisingly, househusbands seem to be an accepted concept here in Shanghai. In 2006, a city survey stated that “70 percent of the working males in Shanghai prefer to stay at home to become professional househusbands” (source: China Daily). Apparently, a whopping 46 percent of Shanghai men also crave to marry rich women.

    “I could never go back to my former career,” admits Devin, whose fulltime role now involves organizing the household.  While his wife works as a succesful head-hunter, Devin makes sure his eight-year old son Duncan gets to school, does his extracurricular activities and finishes his homework in the evening. Although they have an ayi to clean the house (one of the luxuries of living in China), Devin does all the shopping, house repairs and maintenance himself. “Men really never had this choice before,” he says. “If we did this just a few decades ago everyone would have thought we were closeted homosexuals.”

    TV programs such as Footballers Wives (UK) and Desperate Housewives (US) have beome exceptionaly popular, and the recent reality TV series Househusbands of Hollywood explores the flip-side of the same scenario. While it shamelessly skewers the lifestyle (they all seem to hang out playing basketball and getting drunk), the show also muffles the stigma towards this particular outlook on life.

    “I’ve followed my wife Jeanne for the last 15 years,” says Marc Leslie, another househusband who also lives in Jinqiao. “Our agreement is – whoever had the best chance for advancement and better salary would decide where we’d go.” When asked if he gets stick from his working male friends, Marc answered: “My ex-colleagues (in England) threatened to take me to the pub to talk some sense into me for following a woman around. I explained to four of them that if we combined all five of our salaries it still wouldn’t be equal to Jeanne’s [who works in the oil industry].They certainly quieted down a bit after that.”

    When Marc is not organizing his children and his household he enjoys playing golf whenever he wants. “Most of the trailing spouses are women; I have several ‘golfing girlfriends’ who along with the trailing male spouses try to organize golf outings on a regular basis.”

    He agrees that Shanghai appears to be very progressive in terms of opinions and perceptions towards househusbands. “I know of six couples in our building alone where the male is the trailing spouse,” says Marc.   
    “Most guys say, ‘Wow, I wish I was in your shoes,’ but most would suck at this role,” reckons Devin, who has to maintain all the orchids and fresh flowers throughout the house. “I hate this, but am fairly good at it. I score extra points on Fridays by getting my wife’s favorite almond croissants and the latest People magazine and placing fresh flowers by her bathtub.”

    Martin Leung, an American-born Chinese guy-tai living in Jinqiao, agrees it’s not all lounging around doing socials. “You quickly see how difficult this job can be,” he says, “but then you want to work harder to help your kids and wife succeed and to make a difference in their lives.” The latter, it seems, is especially gratifying. “There’s nothing more rewarding than a happy child asking for help in homework, or second servings of food that you have cooked,” he adds with a smile.

    But Devin says there is also a downside. “It’s trying at times, and grinding – having the ultimate thankless job. But I’d still definitely recommend it.” Marc agrees: “We’re part of a growing population of househusbands, and it’s a good trend.”

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